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Men's Personal Growth & Relationship Coach

Move Beyond Emotional Pain. Build a Stronger, More Connected Life.

Compassionate, practical coaching for men navigating grief, loss, life's emotional challenges, and patterns that keep them feeling stuck.

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A grounded place to grow—with more self-worth, resilience, and connection.

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Navigate • Grow • Connect
Who I help

For men ready to move forward—
not just figure things out.

You may be carrying something painful, feeling disconnected from yourself, or watching familiar patterns strain your relationships. Whether you're new to personal growth or have been working on yourself for years, you don't have to figure it all out alone.

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Emotional pain & loss

Grief, setbacks, abandonment, and major life changes.

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Recurring patterns

Shame, people-pleasing, defensiveness, or getting triggered.

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Relationship struggles

Disconnection, difficult conversations, and challenges with trust.

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Ready for change

Curious and committed to building new skills, not just insight.

How I help

Three areas of meaningful growth.

We focus on what matters to you, with practical steps that can make a difference in everyday life.

01 / NAVIGATE

Navigating Emotional Pain & Loss

Make space for difficult experiences, recognize their influence, and find constructive ways to move forward.

02 / GROW

Emotional Resilience & Inner Security

Build self-worth, recognize triggers, establish boundaries, and practice healthier emotional responses.

03 / CONNECT

Healthy Masculinity & Relationships

Strengthen communication, emotional maturity, vulnerability, trust, and meaningful connection.

My approach

Beyond talking about it.
Experience a different way forward.

You can understand your patterns and still feel stuck in them. My coaching is personal, experiential, and responsive to what you're navigating that day. We make room for the mind, the emotions, and the body—without forcing a one-size-fits-all process.

01 / CONNECT

Begin with safety and intention

We start by checking in, setting an intention, and often using breathwork to settle in. If meaningful to you, we may include prayer or spiritual reflection; it's always guided by your own beliefs.

02 / EXPLORE

Go beyond the surface

Depending on your goals and comfort, I may draw on somatic awareness, inner-child exploration, parts work, Mental and Emotional Release techniques, NLP, tapping, guided visualization, or hypnotherapy when appropriate. Some exercises are eyes-closed and reflective; others involve conversation and practice.

03 / INTEGRATE

Bring it into everyday life

We close by making meaning of the experience, identifying next steps, and choosing practical ways to apply what you've learned in your relationships, habits, and everyday decisions.

A tailored experience

There is no rigid script. Some sessions are conversational; others involve deeper experiential exercises. We work at a pace that respects your boundaries and what feels appropriate that day.

Training & tools

Trained and certified in NLP, Mental and Emotional Release, and hypnotherapy. I also draw on additional practices I've studied, including somatic awareness, breathwork, parts-based reflection, attachment-informed education, and compassion-centered coaching.

With your explicit permission, I may record a session and use AI to prepare a personal summary and next steps. Recording and AI processing are optional and discussed before use.

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“Understanding my patterns wasn't the same as changing my life.”— Dustan's journey
My story

I've spent years looking for a way forward.

I know what it's like to search for answers and still feel stuck.

Through serious illness, loss, emotional hardship, and relationship struggles, I invested years in therapy, personal development, retreats, meditation, and learning from teachers around the world. I gained a lot of insight, yet understanding my patterns didn't always change how I felt or lived.

That experience shaped why I do this work today: to offer men compassionate, practical support as they connect more honestly with themselves and build healthier ways of relating to others.

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Ways to work with me

Real growth looks different for everyone.

My work is designed to meet you where you are—whether you're starting with personalized coaching or exploring what's possible through future group experiences.

Available now

1:1 Personal Growth & Relationship Coaching

Our work blends meaningful conversation with guided exercises and practical integration. Rather than arriving with a fixed plan for each meeting, I tailor the experience to your goals and what's present that day.

Current format: Typically weekly sessions of around 90 minutes, beginning with a three-month coaching engagement.

My primary focus is men. Individual coaching inquiries from women are welcome. Sessions are available in person in Newport Beach and may be discussed for online delivery.

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In development

Workshops, Groups & Digital Courses

I'm expanding this work into guided group experiences, online learning, and in-person workshops so more men can practice emotional growth and healthier connection.

These offerings are planned, not yet open for enrollment. Retreats may be explored in the future.

Explore what's next, without pressure or promises.

Couples inquiries may be discussed individually where appropriate. Couples coaching is not currently a standard advertised program.

What we're working toward

A healthier relationship with yourself.
A more connected life with others.

More self-worth

Approach yourself with greater acceptance and confidence.

Less reactivity

Recognize emotional patterns and create room to respond.

Stronger relationships

Develop trust, communication, and healthier boundaries.

Deeper connection

Feel more authentic and available in your everyday life.

The experience

Grounded support without judgment.

Clients have described feeling deeply seen, accepted, and emotionally safe in our conversations—sometimes in ways they hadn't experienced before.

Summary of themes from client feedback; individual experiences vary. Verified testimonials can be added here with permission.
Your next step

Ready to move forward?

Begin with a short application on Calendly to see whether personalized coaching is the right next step. If the fit looks promising, you'll be guided directly to a complimentary 25-minute consultation. Other inquiries receive appropriate next steps.

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Tell me what you're looking for

Answer a few straightforward questions through Calendly. You don't need to share detailed personal or health information.

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Find the right next step

Based on your answers, Calendly will direct you to the consultation calendar or another appropriate path.

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Connect if we're a potential fit

A complimentary, no-obligation 25-minute conversation—not a coaching session.

Current primary offer: individual coaching, typically weekly over an initial three-month engagement. Coaching is not psychotherapy, medical treatment, or crisis care.

Private coaching application

Let's explore whether working together is a good fit.

You'll complete the short application in Calendly, which handles qualification and directs you to the appropriate next step.

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