EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS & PATTERNS COACH

Break Free From the Emotional Patterns Keeping You Stuck.

You’ve done the inner work. You understand your struggles. But the same emotional triggers keep coming back. Move toward more inner peace, healthier relationships, and the freedom to live more fully.

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Go beyond managing reactions. Explore what’s driving them—and discover a different way forward.

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More Peace • Deeper Connection • Greater Freedom

Who I help

You know your patterns. Why do they keep coming back?

You’ve invested in personal growth and gained real self-awareness. Yet familiar emotional reactions, limiting beliefs, or painful relationship patterns can still leave you feeling stuck. You want more than understanding—you want to experience life differently.

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Emotional triggers

Familiar anger, anxiety, shame, hurt or defensiveness that keeps resurfacing.

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Self-sabotaging patterns

People-pleasing, perfectionism, limiting beliefs, or habits that hold you back.

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Relationship struggles

Repeating arguments, disconnection, and dynamics you wish you could change.

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Ready for a different life

You want greater peace, confidence, connection, and room to be yourself.

How I help

Beyond the pattern is the life you want.

The goal is more than reacting less. It’s feeling more at peace with yourself, building healthier relationships, and living with greater freedom.

01 / PEACE

More Inner Peace

Experience more steadiness, self-compassion, and ease instead of feeling at the mercy of recurring emotional reactions.

02 / CONNECTION

Healthier Relationships

Build more authentic communication, emotional safety, trust, and connection with yourself and the people you love.

03 / FREEDOM

Freedom to Live Fully

Let old patterns have less influence on your choices, so you can show up as the person you want to be.

My approach

Go beyond managing the reaction. Explore what’s driving it.

Understanding a pattern is important, but it doesn’t always change how you experience it. Our personalized, experiential work explores the emotions, beliefs, and protective responses that may keep familiar struggles in place—so you can create meaningful changes in everyday life.

01 / CONNECT

Build trust and understanding

We start with what you’re experiencing and what you want your life to feel like. Together we create room for curiosity, safety, and honest exploration.

02 / EXPLORE

Go beneath the surface

Depending on your needs, we may work through conversation, somatic awareness, parts work, inner-child exploration, NLP, guided visualization, or other experiential approaches. There is no rigid script.

03 / INTEGRATE

Bring change into your life

We make sense of what emerges and explore practical ways to respond differently, connect more deeply, and build healthier patterns.

A tailored experience

There is no rigid script. Some sessions are conversational; others involve deeper experiential exercises. We work at a pace that respects your boundaries and what feels appropriate that day.

Training & tools

Trained and certified in NLP, Mental and Emotional Release, and hypnotherapy. I also draw on additional practices I've studied, including somatic awareness, breathwork, parts-based reflection, attachment-informed education, and compassion-centered coaching.

With your explicit permission, I may record a session and use AI to prepare a personal summary and next steps. Recording and AI processing are optional and discussed before use.

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“Understanding my patterns wasn't the same as changing my life.”— Dustan's journey

My story

I know what it’s like to understand your pain and still feel stuck.

I know what it's like to search for answers and still feel stuck.

Through serious illness, loss, emotional hardship, and relationship struggles, I invested years in therapy, personal development, retreats, meditation, and learning from teachers around the world. I gained a lot of insight, yet understanding my patterns didn't always change how I felt or lived.

That experience shaped why I do this work today: to help people explore what’s beneath recurring emotional patterns and move toward deeper self-connection, healthier relationships, and a life with more peace and freedom.

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Ways to work with me

Personalized coaching for deeper emotional change.

A grounded, one-to-one experience for people who are tired of repeating the same patterns and ready to explore a different way forward.

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1:1 Emotional Triggers & Patterns Coaching

Our work blends meaningful conversation with guided exercises and practical integration. Rather than arriving with a fixed plan for each meeting, I tailor the experience to your goals and what's present that day.

Current format: Typically weekly sessions of around 90 minutes, beginning with a three-month coaching engagement.

For self-aware, growth-minded adults. In-person sessions in Newport Beach; online coaching may be discussed when appropriate.

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In development

Workshops, Groups & Digital Courses

I’m exploring workshops, group experiences, and digital resources to help people understand emotional patterns and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others.

These offerings are planned, not yet open for enrollment. Retreats may be explored in the future.

Explore what's next, without pressure or promises.

Couples inquiries can be discussed individually where appropriate. Couples coaching is not currently a standard advertised program.

What we're working toward

More peace. Healthier relationships. Greater freedom.

Inner peace

Feel more steady, present, and less controlled by familiar triggers.

Self-connection

Relate to yourself with greater awareness, acceptance, and compassion.

Healthier relationships

Create space for trust, honesty, boundaries, and authentic connection.

Freedom to live differently

Make choices from who you want to be—not just old patterns.

CLIENT EXPERIENCES

What meaningful change can look like.

From emotional reactivity to self-connection

One client’s journey involved becoming less reactive, feeling safer exploring emotions, and building a more compassionate relationship with herself.

From perfectionism to greater peace

Another client explored long-held emotional patterns and grew toward greater self-acceptance, ease, and connection in her relationships.

From people-pleasing to authenticity

A client described meaningful shifts toward personal responsibility, emotional clarity, and pursuing a life more aligned with her values.

Anonymized summaries based on client experiences, not direct quotes or guarantees. Identifiable testimonials may be added only with permission.

FAQ

Common questions before we connect.

Here’s what to know about working together.

Is this different from therapy?

Yes. This is personal growth coaching, not psychotherapy, diagnosis, medical treatment, or crisis care. If you need clinical support, a licensed mental-health professional is the appropriate resource.

What happens in a session?

Every session is personalized. We may work through conversation, emotional reflection, somatic awareness, guided exercises, or other experiential approaches depending on your needs and comfort.

Do I need to know exactly why I get triggered?

Not at all. Curiosity and a willingness to explore are enough to begin. We can look together at recurring responses and what may contribute to them.

How long are sessions, and where do we meet?

Individual sessions are typically around 90 minutes, usually weekly within an initial three-month coaching engagement. In-person sessions are available in Newport Beach, and online sessions may be considered.

Do you work with both women and men?

Yes. I work with self-aware, growth-minded adults who want to explore recurring emotional triggers and patterns.

Is spirituality required?

No. Spiritual reflection may be included if it aligns with your values, but it is never required or imposed.

How do I get started?

Use the short Calendly application to explore fit. Qualified inquiries are directed to a complimentary 25-minute consultation.

Your next step

Ready to stop repeating the same emotional patterns?

If you’re ready to move toward greater inner peace, healthier relationships, and emotional freedom, start with a short application. If there’s a potential fit, you’ll be guided to a complimentary 25-minute consultation.

Tell me what you're looking for

Answer a few straightforward questions through Calendly. You don't need to share detailed personal or health information.

Find the right next step

Based on your answers, Calendly will direct you to the consultation calendar or another appropriate path.

Connect if we're a potential fit

A complimentary, no-obligation 25-minute conversation—not a coaching session.

Current primary offer: individual coaching, typically weekly over an initial three-month engagement. Coaching is not psychotherapy, medical treatment, or crisis care.

Private coaching application

Let's explore whether working together is a good fit.

You'll complete the short application in Calendly, which handles qualification and directs you to the appropriate next step.

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